TIME FOR YOU

#TheWrightThought Value your time as much as you respect your boss's time. It's not your boss's job to make you happy. That's your job ! Take the time to invest in your happiness, because you can't expect people to value you more than you value yourself.

It we don't take advantage of the leave time we have learned we can not expect that our employers will treat us like royalty and plan a vacation trip for us, and then escort us to the lavish spot of relaxation that we desire and deserve.

The way we treat ourselves is often the way people will treat us. If we continuously work without breaks, don't take time off, respect our company's goals more than we do our health and welfare then we can expect the establishment to treat us more like a tool than a person. Take charge of your health, happiness, and welfare by being intentional with your time for yourself. When is the last time you truly treated yourself to time off without taking your work with you mentally of physically ? (This month I took time out to visit family in England. In the picture my wife and I are enjoying dinner at a restaurant with my cousin and his wife. There was no discussion about work at all during our trip.) hashtag#leadership hashtag#growth hashtag#health

HOW I LOST DAYS I CAN'T GET BACK !!

   

         

         In my left pocket of my pants is a device I wasn't born with. It wasn't even invented until I was an adult. Therefore I lived many years without it, and did just fine. Now every couple of minutes I am reaching in to my pocket to check this device. Each time I check it I am devoting a small portion of my 24 hours to it. Every time I check it and I see someone has responded to one of my posts online my brain delivers a shot of satisfaction in the form of an endorphin. It makes me feel good, accepted, gratified. I go back, again and again for the fix.  Each visit is a short appointment to see if the dose of satisfaction is ready. What was the response? What did they say? Did someone like it ? Should I make another post ? Each visit cost me a portion of my valuable resource. Something that is more valuable than gold, money, or diamonds. My time.  

Even as I am typing these very words I am realizing that some where in my mind the value of satisfaction, be accepted, desired, liked, talked about by people online is calculated and valued to be worth more than the very time that determines my existence.  I have been willing to waste my time in hopes that someone would comment in a small way and acknowledge my presence. What I was willing to fill with proactive activities and actually face to face engagement as a child I have been willing to substitute with a simulation of reality as an adult. Yikes. 

If I could add up all the time I spent checking my phone in 2018 I'm sure it would add up to days. How many hours have I given away ? How much quality time with people of influence have I lost ? How many adventures have I missed out on ? 

My goal for 2019 is not to go cold turkey. My goal is to tackle each hour of each day as a hurdle by planning my day and week ahead with more productive activities. Trying to tackle all 365 days of 2019 at one time by saying I will suddenly be better is a bit overwhelming for me. Addressing this moment and today is challenging, but manageable. I must constantly ask myself .."What is a better use of my time ?"

Time wasters are strange demons that become vacuums for our time. 

What takes up your time, but adds little value to it ?

What goal haven't you been working on that is more important than this other activity that is wasting your time ?

We all are given 24 hours each day. Each moment of that 24 hours is incredibly precious. Why ? Because no matter who we are, how rich or famous we may become we can never buy back time. 

THE LEADERSHIP OIL CHANGE QUESTION

If you go to your local vehicle service provider to change your oil and they tell you they changed the oil and filter , and placed a sticker in the windshield stating to comeback once your vehicle has reached said mileage , but they knowingly did not  actually complete the service ..how would you respond ?

If a school passes students on to the next grade or provides them with a graduating certificate knowing they do not meet the requirements how would you respond ?

( Do we value our vehicles more than our future leaders ?)

How we respond to people versus how we respond to things is a true reflection of our leadership. Why?, Because you can not lead things. You can manage things, such as systems, and processes. However, you can lead and manage people. Therefore the way you respond to issues concerning people is a true reflection of your leadership capability.

The success of an organization over the long term often depends on the value the organization places on and the investment they make in people. Leaders are in all organizations including families, businesses, churches, clubs, and sports teams. The decisions that the leaders make within these organization concerning the people, for the people, and affecting the people will determine a significant extent of their success.

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THE RESPECT THAT STARTS WORKING AGAINST US

          Ellen was told as a little girl to be considerate of mother's time by making sure she came straight home from school, so she could relieve her mother and watch her little brother,and give her mother enough time to get to work on time.  In school it was reinforced to Ellen not to waste her teacher's time by loitering in the hall and showing up late to class. As an adult it has repeatedly been reiterated to Ellen to never waste the company's or boss's time. As a mother and wife Ellen has remembered these lessons so well that she dedicates almost all of her time to her job, her husband, and her kids. In the end she feels resentful to all of them at times, because she has no time to herself.

We are under the control of the person or entity who's time we respect the most. We abuse, neglect and disrespect the people whose time we value the least.

Have you noticed at a very young age that most people are taught to respect everyone else's time except their own? We learn to value and respect others people's time before we are ever taught to manage and value our own time. Time is our most valuable resource, because it can not be retrieved once it is gone. Everything comes to an immediate halt without time. The game, the exam, the relationship, and life all come to an end when time runs out.

We will use our resources, stress ourselves out, mark our calendar, and set our watches to ensure we are on time for others. Millions spend their lives being on time for one company. At their retirement or funeral they will say "He was never late to work over his 30 years here at the firm."  "She was always the first one here in the morning ."

Our talents, potential, and resources are usually invested where ever our time is most spent. If we are never taught that OUR time is our most valuable resource we will unintentionally give others permission to use/waste our time and we will value the time of others more than we value our own.

Without time our talents cannot be developed.
Without time we don't grow.
Without time ______________________ . (Your thoughts )

Me and my team would love to talk to your group about the value of time. When can we meet ?
Set a date to add value to you and your group by inviting us in to listen and share.

Contact me at lukemotivates@gmail.com

DO THESE TRAITS IDENTIFY THE INSECURE LEADER YOU'RE DEALING WITH ?

Many of you work and/or live with people who weld power due to their position or title. They seem to drain more energy from you than they give. You feel worn out instead of warmed up when you know you have to engage or deal with them. For what ever reason you keep dedicating your most precious resource which is time to being around them. You have made that choice. You can also make other choices to deliver yourself mentally and/or physically from them.

Below is a short list of traits that usually identify the insecure leader.


Insecure Leaders :

1. Focus on people and actions they believe are against them.

2. Rely mostly on their own circumstances and understanding rather than seeking the counsel of others.

3. Have a perspective that focuses on scarcity rather than abundance. They don't believe there is enough greatness to go around, to be shared, and distributed to others.

4. Use manipulation to get what they want.

5. May feel intimidated without admitting it to others, and therefore use intimidation against others to get what they want.

6. Often resent the success of others even when they outrank those experiencing the success.

7. Believe strongly that in order for someone to win someone must lose.

8. Will consistently blame others for their dilemmas

9. Believe that having control over others is more beneficial and rewarding that building trusting and valuable relationships with others.

10. Will intentionally take the credit for what others have done.

(*This list was mainly derived from a list of traits provided from John Maxwell )

What other traits do you associate with being an insecure leader ?

How are you INTENTIONALLY investing in yourself to GROW as a LEADER who adds value to others and help others to grow ?

How can I help you grow as a LEADER ?

If I offered to train 5 of your personnel for free in a workshop at your hosted facility to become more influential and effective leaders, would you invite others to participate and grow?

If you are contact me at lukemotivates@gmail.com

A MOTHER'S TEACHABLE MOMENT

One evening a mother heard a knock at the door. She looked through the peep hole and saw it was her son. She opened the door and he immediately stormed in right passed her. He began grumbling to his mother about his wife and how stubborn and ungrateful she was. He demanded her respect for being the bread winner, the family provider, and the rock of the household. He wanted to be heard and validated for his efforts. He heard his emotions so loudly he couldn't and wasn't interested in hearing the voice or perspective of his wife. The mother sat at the dinner table quietly listening to her son's rant and couldn't understand how she had raised a man who was so hardhearted. He valued his opinion so much that he didn't value his wife's. Then it struck his mother like a painful blow. It was her that taught him each day of his upbringing with her ranting, yelling, one-way conversations, telling and demanding that had instructed him how to treat and communicate with those you love.

Too often we show our sons and daughters how to talk through our actions, but we rarely show them how to listen through our actions.

Tramaine L. Crawford (TLC Coaching) and I build effective communication in to our workshops with youth, because we understand developing effective leadership requires people who can listen before they can effectively lead.

What teachable moment have you experienced from listening and watching your own kids ?

TONIGHT I'M DOING .....

Sometimes life requires you to pause and do nothing. 

At times that is the best thing for us, to simply pause, relax and do nothing. Doing nothing may be sitting on the front porch just watching the traffic go by. Do nothing may be zoning out to music on your favorite station or a random station. Do nothing could be sitting in the yard feeling the blades of grass between your finger tips and watch the random insect pass by.

Sometimes nothing is the best thing for us to do. Nothing is often better than stress. Nothing is often better than over doing it. Nothing is often better than overthinking it. Nothing is often underappreciated, overlooked, denied, not thought about, or considered not an option. Nothing is often the best thing to do.

This evening I'm doing ....




Luke Wright