Wednesday, August 17, 2016

ONE OF MY BIGGEST FAILURES THAT GOT ME HERE

Image result for subconscious messageYou want to be more. you want to achieve more. You want to live beyond the limitations of your bad habits. You want to design your future and stop focusing on the challenges of your past. The transition from where you are to where you want to be starts today ...not someday.

You can take action while you are scared. You can take action while nothing seems to be going your way. You can even take action when the odds seem against you.

YOU CAN. YOU MUST. YOU WILL.

" DON"T FIND AN EXCUSE. FIND A WAY. "

You can ask the universe for whatever you desire, and your subconscious mind will begin devising a plan to manifest the outcome you envision. The subconscious mind will trigger your conscious mind to take actions to bring about progress and outcomes that will produce that outcome. However, when we ask our fears and doubts "can I ?" your subconscious mind will again answer with the same determination that it did before. It will again trigger thoughts and actions that will create the progress and outcome to prove that you can't, and that you aren't good enough.

In 1999 I organized my first speaking event in Norfolk, Virginia. I knew back then that I wanted to speak to and empower others to change their lives. I was a spunky college student studying sociology and criminal justice at Norfolk State University. I wanted to reduce the recidivism of juvenile youth returning to detention homes or jail, and I was determined to hold a forum speaking to parents about it.

A friend of mine at school assisted me in securing a local venue at a very cheap cost. I handed out flyers, posted up signs, told my family, friends, associates at school and in the court system about the event. The anticipation built up as the date of the event got closer. I couldn't wait. Finally the evening came. I pulled up to the building in my 1991 silver Volkswagen with a pile off handouts to give to the guests. A representative came and unlocked the building where the event was to be held. There were plenty of chairs and tables and great lighting in the room I was going to speak in. I got there early to make sure everything was set up.

I set up the room and waited. Time was getting closer to show time. Parents and concerned citizens, friend and supporters would soon arrive. Show time arrived and nobody came. I waited a little longer. A waited a little more. I looked at my watch. I went out in the parking lot to look for cars pulling up. No parents showed up. No concerned citizens arrived. No friends arrived. No one showed up.

I was hurt, disappointed, angry, frustrated, confused. No one showed up to even disagree with me, boo me or reject my opinions. I wasn't even worth rejecting,arguing with, or debating against, let only being heard? I WAS HURT.
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I failed, but I was not a failure. Therefore the message I sent repeatedly to my subconscious mind was "get better", "invest in yourself", "try again".

Today people pay to hear me speak, empower, motivate and add value to them. I speak to leaders in the civilian and government sectors. Today I still fail at things, and I still invest in myself, learn from my mistakes, and train to get better.

The mind is a tower that receives and send signals. Those signals and impulses are translated in to messages that your mind will transform in to thoughts and actions.

What messages are you receiving ? from your self ? from others ?

How are those messages from others and yourself affecting your actions, lifestyle, and those people you support ?

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Monday, August 8, 2016

You Have The Permission To Rewrite The Rules



For the last two weeks we have had an added addition to the Wright household.  My wife's 4 year old nephew Ky has been staying with us. He is a very smart young man. He catches on to things quickly and loves to help out. If I'm cutting the grass he's there to assist. If I'm working on the pool he is there to help, if I'm having a snack he's there to assist me too.

Ky is full of energy.  It may be very possible that he is running off of nuclear energy. I'm very surprised that the little new balance shoes he wears have not burst into flames from his constant and quick movements.  Watching him is like trying to track down that one fly at the family bbq...now you see him, now you don't.

Just the other day while we were outside doing some yard work, Ky was helping me sweep up some grass when he passed gas. I shot him a look and he quickly responded to me. "You don't have to say excuse me if you fart outside." I've never heard of that rule. But, I must honestly say the little stinker had me thinking for a moment.

At that moment Ky had broken the rules and made up his own. He made his statement with confidence and continued to sweep up the grass, while I continued working quietly and pondering what the little guy and just said.

We are free to break and make up new rules in our life.  We are free to push the envelope and explore. We are free to do something different and new. We are free to experience different things and enjoy life from a different perspective.

It is the mundane, the scheduled routine, the normalcy, ritualistic, non-changing rhythm of life we get stuck in that we have the power to change.

I don't suggest you start passing gas outside and using Ky's justification to get a pass on etiquette. I do suggest being brave and doing something different. You don't need permission to grow. You don't need permission to change your life. You don't need someone's opinion to grant you happiness. You need action.

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What rule are you willing to break ?

What are willing to do different to create growth in your life ?

What are you willing to do different today to create happiness in your life ?

Whose opinion are you no longer willing to see as authorization for freedom and permission for change in your life ?