THE FEAR LURKING IN YOUR OFFICE AND HOME

When people don't feel safe talking to you it doesn't matter if you have a open door policy as a leader, manager, commanding officer, boss, principal,partner , spouse or parent. 

When people can't trust you to listen without damaging them emotionally or physically they will seriously limit their communication w/ you. 

Meetings, day, anniversaries , and gatherings will go by without them saying what they truly feel because they fear you much more than they respect you.

 

Teachers and principals , children and parents , spouses , employees and bosses , student and teacher relationships can all be affected by fear. 

Teaching our youth how to effectively communicate is key to their growth. 

We seriously limit the creativity someone contributes, natural passion people have, and love some gives when they are afraid to communicate. 

How have you seen fear affect the relationships around you ? 

Do you have a youth group that could benefit from a workshop on effective communication ?

Do you have an experience you would like to share about fear and communication ?

DEAR PARENTS,

I am finishing up an OUTSTANDING book by the late Dr. Myles Munroe. My business partner Tramaine Crawford and I decided to read the book and discuss it on 6:30 a.m. calls. I just finished reading Chapters 9 and 10 of the book. The chapters were so inspiring that it fired me up to write this blog post based on its content and its connection to my passion.

Dear Parents,

When you confuse your paycheck from your employer with your purpose, which is your life time assignment, you will confuse those you influence and mentor. Telling a child to be their best with your words, but encouraging them to be less than that with your actions is confusing. You are your child’s greatest influence. We all step in to greatest when we follow our purpose. Follow your purpose so your kid won’t question following theirs.

Yours Truly,

Your Heart

Even if you are not a parent seriously consider why you are here, and what you are here for. Obviously you have a purpose that is greater than your commute, your job evaluation, promotion, daily cups of coffee, or degree. What is it? Your purpose is greater than your life, because it impacts so many other lives.

Passion will help us rise above our daily routine.

What path do you see yourself being on that would enable to rise above the daily routine required for the destination?

What hopes and dreams do you have that never leave you ?

“People who are satisfied with a lesser existence will never go where they need to be.”
  Dr. Myles Munroe

Are you going where you need to be ?..on a daily basis ?

Sow a thought, reap a belief.

Sow a belief, reap an attitude,

Sow an attitude, reap an action.

Sow an action, reap a habit.

Sow a habit, reap a character, reap a destiny.

True leaders don’t have jobs, they have lifetime assignments. You are a leader!!

What is your life assignment?

Sitting In My Car Crying

 

Have you ever sat on the edge of your bed not wanting to go to work because you dreaded being there? 

Have you ever sat in the car in the parking lot of your job sobbing because you were so stressed out about the environment you were working in?

Have you ever found yourself sitting at your desk pondering aimlessly in your mind why you were working for that company, and/or for that particular boss?

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed about the way you were treated at work that you felt you could run out of the door that very day and not return?

Have you ever so felt so emotional about a situation or events that happened at you place of employment that it affected your mood inside and outside of work?

Have you ever felt bottled up emotionally about what was happening at work and how you felt, but you felt as though there was no one you could turn to, no one to listen, no one to understand, no one who could help?

Many people leave for their job on a daily basis, but despise being there. Most people spend at least 40 hours a week/8 hours a day  at their job, 1.5 hours commuting to and from their job, 2-3 hours thinking about work when their off the clock, and another hour preparing to get there each day. That’s 12.5 to 13.5 hours each day contributed to something that you may not like, are unhappy with, and/ or is causing you distress daily. WOW!!

Millions of people dedicate more time to their lives to careers, jobs, causes, and bosses than to their happiness, family, or friends.

Share your stories so we can understand.  

Why did you stay ?

 Why did you left?

 If you’re still there?

I would like to know want happened?

When I listen, I learn. When I learn I gain perspective, understanding and knowledge that enables me to be better, do better, and help others.

I’ve had my fair share of good bosses and not so good bosses. Maybe I’ve been that kind of leader to others in the past.

Share your story with us. (Feel free to change the name , places, and dates in your story for obvious reasons)

THERE ARE TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE. JUST TWO.

There are two kinds of people. Just two


TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE

There are two kinds of people on earth today,
Just two kinds of people, no more, I say,
Not the good and the bad, for ’tis well understood
The good are half bad and the bad are half good.

Not the happy and sad, for the swift flying years
Bring each man his laughter and each man his tears.
Not the rich and the poor, for to count a man’s wealth
You must first know the state of his conscience and health.

Not the humble and proud, for in life’s busy span
Who puts on vain airs is not counted a man.
No! The two kinds of people on earth I mean
Are the people who lift, and the people who lean.

Wherever you go you will find the world’s masses
Are ever divided in just these two classes.
And, strangely enough, you will find, too, I wean,
There is only one lifter for twenty who lean.

This one question I ask. Are you easing the load
Of overtaxed lifters who toil down the road?
Or are you a leaner who lets others bear
Your portion of worry and labor and care?

Ella Wheeler 

Examine the people within your inner circle.

Are they lifters or leaners ?

Who is your number one lifter ?

Who is the leaner that is costing you more than they're worth ?

Is it worth having them as a leaner in your inner circle ?

You are the manager of your inner circle. If you choose not to manage it , it will manage you. Hoping and wishing is not a successful management tool.

SKIN DEEP DISCIPLINE !!

  Since I was a kid I have had to deal with the very stressful, annoying, and irritable skin disorder of eczema.  At school many kids wondered if it was catching before they knew what it was. I remember during many summers having to lay on the couch with a cold rag around my neck to reduce the irritation that caused me to itch and the condition to get worse. The rashes would appear on the inside of my arms, my neck, the back of legs, and on my wrist.  When I scratched the areas would get inflamed, spread and darken.  It was not a good time.  There were times as an adult when it would completely clear up for periods at a time.  However, sometimes the scars were still visible.

Bathing in hot water dehydrates my skin and aggravates the break out areas. I feel like a fiend standing in the shower having the hot water bake on my skin. It's a weird high that has regrettable results. It inflames the areas, make them darker and often brings on the itching.  The lack of discipline on my part requires me to pay a higher price for my morale and welfare.  When I fail to implement the required discipline of bathing in luke warm water, using mild soaps, and pat drying myself after showers I pay the price. I suffer. I am impacted and I set myself back. It is a very mentally and physically costly non-productive circle.


Discipline is required !!  If you fail to have or implement discipline into your life the simplest of tasks will not be accomplished or take exponentially longer. Discipline is a key component of any living organism.  The less discipline an organism has the more it deviates from its true purpose and goals.

The universe doesn't care if you are male or female, black or white, tall or short, disabled, gay or straight. It will create opposing forces to disburse your efforts when you lack discipline. Success demands some sort of discipline and then rewards us with progress, even if it's not immediately visible.

Try to live outside the boarders of discipline, and yes you will have free reign to do as you please at times, but that freedom will be overshadowed by the darkness of set backs you unknowingly designed for yourself like it came from a coaches play book.

Discipline will reward you with inner strength that will enable you to move forward, do more, be more effective and efficient. Discipline will not embraced or be loved by your excuses, fears or unchecked habits. Discipline will separate you from others that lack discipline.



It is very difficult to conquer any thing when we are unable to control and conquer ourselves through discipline. Discipline enables the ant to accomplish what is impossible to the being that lacks discipline. In size the ant is small, but with discipline the ant competes with, and rivals many gi-ants....giants...get it ? lol.

Big doors swing on small hinges.  You can accomplish greater things if your are willing to be disciplined.

Don'find an excuse. Find a way.

Eczema and Determination

  Since I was a kid I have had to deal with the very stressful, annoying, and irritable skin disorder of eczema.  At school many kids wondered if it was catching before they knew what it was. I remember during many summers having to lay on the couch with a cold rag around my neck to reduce the irritation that caused me to itch and the condition to get worse. The rashes would appear on the inside of my arms, my neck, the back of legs, and on my wrist.  When I scratched the areas would get inflamed, spread and darken.  It was not a good time.  There were times as an adult when it would completely clear up for periods at a time.  However, sometimes the scars were still visible.

Bathing in hot water dehydrates my skin and aggravates the break out areas. I feel like a fiend standing in the shower having the hot water bake on my skin. It's a weird high that has regrettable results. It inflames the areas, make them darker and often brings on the itching.  The lack of discipline on my part requires me to pay a higher price for my morale and welfare.  When I fail to implement the required discipline of bathing in luke warm water, using mild soaps, and pat drying myself after showers I pay the price. I suffer. I am impacted and I set myself back. It is a very mentally and physically costly non-productive circle.


Discipline is required !!  If you fail to have or implement discipline into your life the simplest of tasks will not be accomplished or take exponentially longer. Discipline is a key component of any living organism.  The less discipline an organism has the more it deviates from its true purpose and goals.

The universe doesn't care if you are male or female, black or white, tall or short, disabled, gay or straight. It will create opposing forces to disburse your efforts when you lack discipline. Success demands some sort of discipline and then rewards us with progress, even if it's not immediately visible.

Try to live outside the boarders of discipline, and yes you will have free reign to do as you please at times, but that freedom will be overshadowed by the darkness of set backs you unknowingly designed for yourself like it came from a coaches play book.

Discipline will reward you with inner strength that will enable you to move forward, do more, be more effective and efficient. Discipline will not embraced or be loved by your excuses, fears or unchecked habits. Discipline will separate you from others that lack discipline.



It is very difficult to conquer any thing when we are unable to control and conquer ourselves through discipline. Discipline enables the ant to accomplish what is impossible to the being that lacks discipline. In size the ant is small, but with discipline the ant competes with, and rivals many gi-ants....giants...get it ? lol.

Big doors swing on small hinges.  You can accomplish greater things if your are willing to be disciplined.

Don'find an excuse. Find a way.