THE LIAR IN OUR HOMES AND OFFICES THAT TALKS TO OUR YOUTH

THE LIAR IN HOMES AND OFFICE THAT TALKS TO OUR YOUTH



"You can be anything you want to be ! A doctor, lawyer, or astronaut". Do you remember a teacher or parent saying something like that to you, or to a sibling or friend. Sure you do. Do you remember repeating the same or similar statement to your children, students or youngster ? Probably so.



Do you realize the most influential person in a child life is usual a parent, relative, teacher or coach ?

People listen to what we say, but follow what we do. Adults sound so convincing, motivating, direct and serious in their message to the youth to go out at conquer the world. To be all they can be. To be adventurous and courageous.  Then these same parents, teachers, mentors, and coaches turn right around and climb back in to their own comfort zone of work that includes a predicable mundane schedule with little risk of day to day failure, and sometimes little enjoyment.

The hardest person to lead is the person we see in mirror, and when we are only leading our selves with hopes and dreams and no actions, it in incredibly difficult to lead others with lip service.

If you have a  job that creates little no inspiration in you, and you feel as though you are dragging yourself in work every morning, but you will take no action or risk to find another career, then  why would a young person believe in your words about going to school and finding a job?

If your physical image and daily schedule doesn't reflect one that places fitness and health as a priority why would a young person believe or trust in your words about health ?

If you can't remember the last time you went on vacation, left your city or state, why would a young person be convinced by your words to "go see the world'?

If the high point of your day is running to the parking lot to get in your vehicle to escape the stresses you rushed to get to by 9am, then what message are you sending through your actions, habits, energy, and vibe to those young people you influence ?

The biggest lie we tell are in our daily actions.

What will you do today or this week to change your personal narrative and increase the influence you have with our youth and future leaders ?

TIME FOR YOU

#TheWrightThought Value your time as much as you respect your boss's time. It's not your boss's job to make you happy. That's your job ! Take the time to invest in your happiness, because you can't expect people to value you more than you value yourself.

It we don't take advantage of the leave time we have learned we can not expect that our employers will treat us like royalty and plan a vacation trip for us, and then escort us to the lavish spot of relaxation that we desire and deserve.

The way we treat ourselves is often the way people will treat us. If we continuously work without breaks, don't take time off, respect our company's goals more than we do our health and welfare then we can expect the establishment to treat us more like a tool than a person. Take charge of your health, happiness, and welfare by being intentional with your time for yourself. When is the last time you truly treated yourself to time off without taking your work with you mentally of physically ? (This month I took time out to visit family in England. In the picture my wife and I are enjoying dinner at a restaurant with my cousin and his wife. There was no discussion about work at all during our trip.) hashtag#leadership hashtag#growth hashtag#health

HOW I LOST DAYS I CAN'T GET BACK !!

   

         

         In my left pocket of my pants is a device I wasn't born with. It wasn't even invented until I was an adult. Therefore I lived many years without it, and did just fine. Now every couple of minutes I am reaching in to my pocket to check this device. Each time I check it I am devoting a small portion of my 24 hours to it. Every time I check it and I see someone has responded to one of my posts online my brain delivers a shot of satisfaction in the form of an endorphin. It makes me feel good, accepted, gratified. I go back, again and again for the fix.  Each visit is a short appointment to see if the dose of satisfaction is ready. What was the response? What did they say? Did someone like it ? Should I make another post ? Each visit cost me a portion of my valuable resource. Something that is more valuable than gold, money, or diamonds. My time.  

Even as I am typing these very words I am realizing that some where in my mind the value of satisfaction, be accepted, desired, liked, talked about by people online is calculated and valued to be worth more than the very time that determines my existence.  I have been willing to waste my time in hopes that someone would comment in a small way and acknowledge my presence. What I was willing to fill with proactive activities and actually face to face engagement as a child I have been willing to substitute with a simulation of reality as an adult. Yikes. 

If I could add up all the time I spent checking my phone in 2018 I'm sure it would add up to days. How many hours have I given away ? How much quality time with people of influence have I lost ? How many adventures have I missed out on ? 

My goal for 2019 is not to go cold turkey. My goal is to tackle each hour of each day as a hurdle by planning my day and week ahead with more productive activities. Trying to tackle all 365 days of 2019 at one time by saying I will suddenly be better is a bit overwhelming for me. Addressing this moment and today is challenging, but manageable. I must constantly ask myself .."What is a better use of my time ?"

Time wasters are strange demons that become vacuums for our time. 

What takes up your time, but adds little value to it ?

What goal haven't you been working on that is more important than this other activity that is wasting your time ?

We all are given 24 hours each day. Each moment of that 24 hours is incredibly precious. Why ? Because no matter who we are, how rich or famous we may become we can never buy back time.